We need to fight hard to let go. I don’t mean escape. I mean release the commitment to control. I was raised in what most would describe as a very fun family. We went boating, skiing, rode motorcycles, and traveled every summer. On the outside, it would appear that we Taylor’s didn’t have a care in the world. But, that was on the outside. Behind the scenes, things were very different. On the inside, especially at the emotional level, we were very much on our own. My mother and father both lost their parents at a very young age. As you can imagine, they didn’t have role models or instruction to help them identify feelings, much less learn how to express them. Feelings always seemed to come with the message, “Keep yourself under control”. At all costs, get along with everyone. Be good--or at least appear to be good. So what did we do? We developed what I call “work-arounds”. You know…denial, compartmentalizing, distraction, over achieving. All of this amounted to working harder. The result? This made me tired!
When we fight to work harder, we get caught in the web of fighting the wrong fight. I learned, if not the hard way, that an essential principle for living is the art of letting go. Fighting to keep things under control takes an enormous amount of energy. And we can even get really good at it. But, over the years that “art” of getting along and being good seemed to make my life even messier.
What “work around” have you perfected? I’m sure you are good at it for now--that is until you become worn down. The result? You get more tired! See the cycle? If we already know God is in control, then why are we trying to reinvent the wheel? Let go of your “work arounds” and trust God. He not only has the Ultimate Control, but is much better at it than we are anyway! Fight the right fight.
Let go: Ps 46:10
Be still, and know that I am God
Let God: Phil 2:13
…for it is God who is at work in you to will and to act
in order to fulfill his good purpose.