I love to talk. I can find pretty much any random stranger and we can become decent friends (or at least cordial acquaintances) after a few minutes of dialogue. Conversations are pretty fluid if I’m in the room. I like to keep the buzz of enthusiastic dialogue going. It’s fun. It’s energizing. It’s also sometimes my biggest thorn in the flesh!
Over these past few years, God seems to be reminding me to speak less, love more. Especially within the closest relationships in my world (such as my kids who are now young men). I have soooo much to say to them sometimes! And man, you can bet they need to hear it! (Eye roll appropriate at this moment.) However, the more I say, the bigger gap I create in our relationship. The quieter I am, the more I pray instead of speaking, the more freedom they have to hear the voice of God as He lovingly guides them.
Do you remember the song “Come As You Are” by David Crowder? God allows me to come as I am. He doesn’t immediately start telling me what I NEED to hear. And God knows I NEED to hear a lot from Him! But most of the time, He simply holds me and let’s me gripe a little (or a lot) as I sit on His lap and rant about my frustrations. In that safe place, I am free to truly hear His words of love. I want to be that safe place for those in my world. I want to be quiet and let them “come as they are” so they are free to feel the love of my presence.
Proverbs 10:19 says “the prudent hold their tongues” We can all think of someone we know who may not talk much but when they do talk, they truly give wise thoughtful words to those around them. Ausonius says “He who does not know how to be silent will not know how to speak.” Part of being silent is so we can learn to use our words carefully and thoughtfully.
Lord, may you continue to teach me how to be silent,
to speak less and love more. Amen.